Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
Good Morning.I have a question about getting my ex girlfriend back.We have been together for almost 3 years and have been through almost anything.(LOL.I know you prob hear that alot.)Anyways,we were supposed to be married this past January but weren't due to me calling off our wedding last October.Why,you ask,because she was trying to control me and always arguing with me about things and never wanting to talk things over but just fight and argue.I shouldn't have called the wedding off like I did though.The day I called it off,I called her later that evening and begged her to forget what I had said,and to just postpone things for awhile.But the damage was already done.Anyways,Thanksgiving,Christmas and the whole Holiday season had passed and she started talking to me and we started seeing each other again.I begged for another chance to be with her.Well about mid January she told me she would and we started dating again.The only time I really get to see her is on the weekends because I am in the Navy and can only really come home on the weekends.I am really blessed though because I live only about an hour and a half from the base.Well,we started dating again and things were going so well.Oue sex life was great and we were just getting along so well.I went out to sea for about 23 days straight right toward the end of March and just returned a few days ago.The whole time out to sea I called her and we talked on the phone and we emailed each other like 3-5 times a day.The other day when I pulled in and called her,she said we needed to talk and broke up with me.She said that she is still hurt about me calling off the wedding and every time we talk about getting married,she said that that is all that she can think about.She thinks that I did it and just got away with it.Her exact words were you cannot just do that to someone and get away with it.(Before I left we hadbeen talking about getting married next May).She has said that she feels like she lives in a bottle when she is around me.She also said that she thinks that I have a problem with her independenceand I don't,I am more than glad she is independent and can take care of herself.I just want help and advice about getting her back.Please help me.
You are in a predicament and I am sorry for you.
Both of you feel like you are being controlled by the other. This could be a reflection of or the cause of your arguing. If this arguing is still going on, my advice is to end it by always agreeing with her. That will put an end to the arguing and let you discuss things rationally. If it reaches the arguing stage again, you should agree with her again.
She will react to this with surprise and a happy feeling inside and you will be the beneficiary of it. Keep this up and my hope is that things will turn around for you real fast.
Remember that you broke off the wedding, and it may be that she is trying to get even by breaking off. My guess is that you will be able to get her back.
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com