How to deal with "Love Rat"
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
I am currently faced with a difficult situation – I had a brief fling (of about one week duration, two weeks ago) with a guy I really liked, but he omitted to tell me he was already in a relationship. He eventually told me that he and his girlfriend were ‘on a break’, and I immediately broke off contact with him. I have now been out on a few dates with a new man, but I didn’t realise that he and the love rat socialise together. I went to a party with new man, and love rat was there with his girlfriend. New man has now invited me to the housewarming of love rat and his girlfriend, which feels like a slap in the face. I am really angry at how this man has used me and lied to me and his girlfriend, and it makes socialising quite uncomfortable. No one except love rat and I appear to know what happened between us, so obviously I cannot let the new man know how I feel. Do you have any tips for how I can cope in this situation?
Seems you have two options. One is to learn to deal with love rat and try to forget what happened. This seems a reasonable option to me. The second option is to tell your current boyfriend about what happened and that you don't feel comfortable around love rat. The problem with this option is that it could lead to a breaking up between you and your boyfriend.
Neither option is very good, but I don't think there is a perfect option for your situation.
-- from George
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