Jealous about relationship between her boyfriend and her best friend
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
My boyfriend and I have been going out for almost a year and a half and we are really close. We have never had any really serious relationship problems. We both share the same best friend with a girl we have known for a very long time. In a way you could say she's the reason we met each other, but when ever my boyfriend and her hang out alone I get jealous for some reason and it has nothing to do with a lack of trust. It's not a serious problem, but it's not a feeling I want to live with, and I don't know if it's a feeling of being left out or something else. Can you please tell me why I might feel jealous and how I can help myself deal with it?
Jealousy is a bad habit. It only brings sadness to the one suffering from it.
You could be jealous for two reasons: first is the natural small jealousy when your boyfriend interacts with other girls and the other is the small jealousy when he interacts with your best friend.
You realize that the jealousy is inappropriate and the best way to fight the habit is to have a response ready for any jealousy thought. When a jealous thought or feeling comes, just say to it "He's my boyfriend and he loves me."
Keep saying this and pretty soon the jealous feelings will give up because they realize they cannot bother you any more.
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com