Relationship gone sour
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
Ok. My girlfriend and I fight alot not like hitting but with words, Everything we fight about is small stupid stuff. we have been together for 4 years, recently i have noticed whenever i call her or come home she seems to get irratated. whe have been living together for about 3 years first at her parents then mine, i have been having a few $ problems recently but getting back on my feet, but all of a sudden shes moved out first it was gonna be with her cousin because she just got out of a relationship and needed a roomate, that didnt work so she move back to her parents, because her moms off work for awhile. i dont know if that has to do anything with us or not. other things are she goes out without me to places we used to meet up with all our friends. she doesn't ever invite me to do anything with her anymore. when she was living her she would spend the weekend at her friends house wich is a girl but then she would never call me and when i called her she woul get irratated. she says her moving will help us but i feel its only furthering us and that she needs a little space. plus our sex life has went down the drain fast ifeel like my mind is running 80,000 miles a min im so confused its almost like i dont care about anything anymore i cant even sleep, i have to either watch tv till i pass out or drink a couple beers before bed. its all i think about even at work. IF ANYONE CAN SHED SOME LIGHT ON MY SITUATION PLEASE HELP ME.
The answer to your question is to ask her what's going on.
It sounds like she has grown tired of you, but to be sure you need to ask her. As far as arguing about stupid things, that is a bad habit to get into. The way to put an end to it is whenever you discover that you are in a fight just say "I don't want to fight now, let's discuss it in a few days.
But, your first problem is to find out from her how she is feeling. It is much better to ask rather than wonder and worry!
-- from George
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