Jealous about the relationship between her best friend and her brother
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I have a best friend, in which im very close to. She's coming to visit me soon and i have a jealous problem. She and my brother talks on the phone, flirting and so forth. Several times he'd taken the phone away from me w/o my consent. He's going through a divorce at this time. For some reason I get upset, mad, jealous, and also hes not good enough for her, from the things he's done in the past. He's always had trashy women and my friend isn't like that.
Shes naive and guillable. So i told her what kind of person he truely is. She claims nothing will happen but the way they talk - tells me otherwise and it causes me to stress out, that hes going mess up my friend's life. How can I get over my jealous rage and go on with life.. I'd thought about trying not to get close to people again, but I know that isn't the answer. It'll just make me a cold person. She's told him she can't talk to him because of me, but that didn't work. So the only thing i know what to do is to tell him myself or fix my ownself. Do you have any suggestions??
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Regarding your brother and your best friend, my advice is to try to keep them apart. Discuss this with your best friend and if she won't agree then cancel the visit. Also tell your brother that the visit does not include him.
My guess is that you really like your best friend and that you are jealous of the possibility of your brother taking her attention away from you. (That and his poor behavior also).
Your "jealous rage" is a problem too. Please read our tips on this subject at: http://www.romanceclass.com/miscr/LoveCat/23682
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