Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I been with this guy for a year, we had a great relationship but i got to admit we had our ups and downs. we were best friends for 3 years before we got together, we told each other everything. when we got together we were the same way, we was truthful to each other. it was a shock at first that we were together but we both figured we would have a strong relationship due to being bestfriends. Well 3 months dat we had been together i had cheated on him with my ex boyfriend.my lover and my ex were enemys. BUt he had forgave me.I ended up losing my virginty to my lover and a month later i found out i was 2 months pregant."wow pregant on my first time by my bestfriend...unbeliveable". my ex fliped that caused problems. my point is we been threw hell and back, i had a miscarge and that made our love stronger. but he ended up going to jail because of a situation that he had lied so he wouldnt see me hurt. he was in jail for 3 month and that messed our relationship up alot, things change we wasent as close as we were before, we were always together, thats when i notice that our love was slipping then the month that was goin to make a year came up, it was the best month since he got out, we started geting close again.we did everything together like before then he had bought me an engament ring (promise ring)stating we were going to be toghther for a very long time then the next day the worse day of my life he had broken up with me ....WHY? i donno. a week later i found out he was cheatin on me he admited it and i forgave him as long as i had him back. i fought to get him back and i thought that would get us back togethr but it didnt. he confused me so much. one min. he wants me and the next he doesnt want to be with me. its been 5 months today that we had been broken up. we were still talkin over the phone and still cared bout each other, he ended up finding some one eles and he told me no matter what he still loves me and we will get back together soon i want to belive him but then he changes his mind and say he hates me and he doesnt want anything to do with me. What did i do wronge? why? hes so confused. we now dont talk because of him attacking me 2 weeks ago. i want to call him so bad and ask him why he hit me and why he is doing this, if he clams he loves me and want me back why does he hurt me so much, doesnt he think hes done enough? why? what do i do? i want him back and i dont know how to. One min. i have him and the next hes gone again. what can i do? My therapist can't seem to help so can you? i need advice. i love him and i still cry everynight. i know he cares but why wont he show it? why wont he just take me back? what did i do? does he still love me? but i still love him
Since you are talking with a therapist I will keep my reply very brief... you should listen to your therapist.
First off, your ex is extremely immature and confused. He is also violent. One day he loves you next day he hates you. It is nothing YOU have done, it is his problem. He needs some therapy, as much as you.
Sorry you are in this position!
Best of luck,
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com