They love each other but can't be together
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
hey i met this boy nearly 2yrs ago n we fell head over heels in love with eachova we went out for 2-3 months n one day he dumped me. i was devastated! a feww days later he realised hed made a mistake and began to miss me teribly. i still loved him but didnt wanna get hurt agin. for nearly 6 months i ignored him even thogh i still loved him then 1 day forgave him. we became best friends again n both began to fall madly in love again. he would constantly ask me out n get his mates to do it too for ages n finally i gave in and said yes. we were togetha for 4 months n he dumped me again he sed he loves me with all his heart but is not ready to commit to a serious relationship yet. cuz he was 13 n i was 15. it sounds pedoish but its honestly not we loved eachova so much. he sed he wants to experiment with other girls and that we would get back togetha one day. we stayed really close friends after that n the other day we had sex for the 1st time even tho were not boyfriend and girlfriend and we were eachovas firts so it was really special n we had spoken before that we wanted to do it n be eachovas irsts n it happened. i still really love him n he loves me wot shall i do i really wanna be with him n he feels the same wot shall i do we care ever such alot for eachova wot shall i do? plz help im madly in love with him.
The fact that you had sex together suggests that you are going to get back together.
The reason is that it is very difficult to stop having sex once you start. So he will probably be back at your front door before you know it.
(Pause for unasked for advice: you two are not old enough to have sex... at least because of his age. Please use a condom every single time you have sex and don't re-use a condom).
So back to your question... when he comes back for more sex, tell him that you won't consider it unless you have a committed relationship.
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com