Pay attention to her
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
Hi, I know this girl at school (we can call her X) and I started talking to her, and it seems like we are really good friends now (this all happend pretty quickly) we are not going out, but I think I might be interisted. The problem is that sometimes we hang out together after school(I go to boarding school) and we have fun, talking and laughing and just being with each other. Other days though, she is pretty quite, and its hard for me to make her seem really comfortable around me like she was a couple days ago. What should I do to help X feel more comfortable with me, and build our relationship?
P.S. Alot of the time she is with her best friend who is also a girl and I am ok friends with her.... but I dont know if that will make any difference in your answer.
Everyone is in a bad mood from time to time.
When they are in a bad mood, it is difficult to figure out how to make them feel better. If possible, sit close to her and ask if she is feeling ok. She will probably say yes. Then you follow up with saying that she looks a little sad and can you do anything to help.
Even if this attention doesn't bring her out of her bad mood, she will remember that you tried and appreciate you for it.
When she is in a good mood, wonder what is making her happy.
Maybe she is jealous of the other girl that you two are hanging out with.
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com