"S" her ex hates her and he is her boyfriends best friend
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Okay this is really compliacted but me and my ex are back together. after we broke up I made the huge mistake of going out with his best friend on rebound...I honestly seriously thought I did like him, and that was during a time when I was so confused and once I kinda got back on track afta getting over my ex I realized I didn't like him. I was planning on breaking up with him(let's call him S) but then S broke up with me- it was mutual- but S kept calling me every night for about a half a month to see if I was "okay". Well once that ended he stopped talking to me completely. I talked to my boyfriend(who is also my ex) and he said that S says that I have emotional attachment issues, and when the topic of me comes up he just nonstop insults me. My boyfriend finally said he thinks it's just still about the whole fact that me and S went out and stuff. Just writing this I realize how bad I must've made S feel becuase he probaby felt like he was being used. But it really sucks having your boyfriend's best friend hate you. Plus he agreed to act "civil" around me- but basically that just means I am not supposed to say a word when he's around or else he will insult me,so when I hang out with him and my BF(which is a lot) I feel really left out and just don't talk at all. And then I don't get to spend much time with my BF cuz' when he asks me to hang out and says S is with him I usually decline. What should I do? I really wish S and me got along better cuz I used to value him as a good friend and we did get along. I see S every day during 8th period- and sometimes I just wanna go talk to him but what should I say?- I wish we could get along
Ruiner of all relationships(or so it seems)
This is going to take some doing.
First you have to figure out why "S" is so mean to you. Give him a call and ask him as honestly and gently as you can why he is being mean to you. You thought you left on good terms but now you are uncomfortable whenever you end up handing out together.
Hopefully his reply will give you the real reason why he is upset and that is a start.
Hope this works for you!
-- from George
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