I told him I liked him
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I am soooo confused!! okay I am going to try to make a long story short but me and a really close friend hooked up and I ended up telling him that I did have feelings for him and that I liked him a lot. Well afta that I was regretting telling him that and said "I shouldn't have told you that- it was a bad idea- now yur gnna act all weird around me" and he started saying "u don't know how much u mean to mean- I love you so much(he says he loves me no matter what though)- if I were into dating right now I would go out with you(his ex burned him pretty bad)" and and other stuff like that. Well, then I tried 2 call him and finally got a hold of him like 4 days later and told him "yeah, it wasn't a good idea to tell u that- u r avoiding me, and haven't answered my calls"- well then his whole attitude changes and he's like " yeah, it mightv'e helped the situation if u hadn't told me that" and he almost seemed like he was being all macho with this "my friend likes me but I don't like her" attitude. So the next day was really strange and I decided I would call him and just make up some bullshit excuse and keep my feelings to myself if he wanted to treat me like he had the upper hand. I calld him that night and was like "yeah- I kinda realized that it's not u I like, it was the thought of u going out with me- there are a lot of things u do that piss me off and it just wouldn't work I realized- so u can stop feeling weird around me if u do" then he seemed kinda shocked and was asked "like what?" so I was pretty mad and said "like u put on a show on friday about how much I meant to u and all this shit and then on Sunday it was like I don't like u at all" and then he was like "well I don't think that we were on the same page" and he went on to say " like, I meant u are the closest girlfriend I have, in a friend way" and then I said "yeah, well u said and I quote- I know we will be dating in the future- not having a relationship which u could twist to mean a good friendship but dating" and he said "yeah- I know I said that cuz u are the closest girlfriend I have and u do mean a lot to me and when I start dating again u are at the top of my list and I will ask u out, but I guess not since u are over me now and u wouldn't date me"- it was like he seriously had twisted my words into a hole and the only way I could get out of it is to say "okay, I still like u" but I wasn't about to cuz then it would be a repeat of the first time. he knew exactly what he was doing too, and it pissed me off...I expected him to sit on the phone until he heard me say "ok..I still like you, you win" so I said well, I don't know by that time my mind mightve gone back to liking u- u have to promise me u'll tell me when u wanna date again"- OMG! I hated myself for saying that because it was so obvious but I did not actually want to have to say the words- but surprisingly enough he was just like "you'll be the first to know, I promise" and then let me go. Does he like me or what?
It's impossible to figure out who said what to whom and when and why. My sense of your story is that you like him and he likes you but neither of you want to make any committment because of all the he said/she said.
Put this on the backburner and see what happens. If you are on the top of his list then you will be the first to know when he is ready to date again. If he never calls, you will know that he was too immature to realize his own emotions.
Hope this all works out for you!
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com