Long distance romance didn't work out
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I met this guy 3 years ago when i was 15. He was new to the city and so was i. I met him through a friend and he seemed to be obsessed with me. He would always call and email me and then finally a month or two later he asked me out. We went out for about 2 months and then i had to move back to my hometown about 4 horus away from him. Before he had asked me out i had told him that i'd be moving back home and that i didnt want just a 2 month relationship and then everythin falls apart because i move, and his repsonse to that was, "don't worry about it i like u alot and im not that kinda guy who would break a girls heart, it doesnt matter where u move ill still have feelings for u." So i was thinkin i had found an amazing guy...as a year went by he started telling me how he loves me and im the greatest thing thats ever happened in his life and that im the best thing. But as more and more time went by he started communicating with me less and less. IT seemed as though he had made lots of friends int he city and had started to forget about me. I also started hearing stories about him doing stuff with other girls and i wasnt too impressed so i asked him about it. the first time he told me that people were jus lying and not to worry about it.But as i started hearing more and more stories i started gettin more and more upset with him and then one day he sent me an email and he just explodedd...he said things such as "u ruined my life i cant believe u dont trust me, i dotn want a relationship with u, i hope u make someone else happy...etc." I was so confuseddd because the whole time we had been 4 hours apart i was the one who calle dhim more...i was the one who put in the 99% effort to talk to him or even drive up to see him...and then i got this in return....when i ask him why he did wat he did after telling me i aws the greatest thing in his life and that he loves me....he simply says that "things happen, life goes on" and won't talk about it.....I"M SOO CONFUSED! i dont know if hes just over me or if i really did screw up when i aske dhim questions about stories i was hearing about him? was i wrong? Everytime i've clearly caught him lieing hes always had an excuse for it. I've tried appologizing on my part but i think hes taking that as an advantage and he says he wont accept the appology......wat DID I DO! i miss him:( becuause it was him who made me feel like a princess at oen point and now we dont talk PLS HELP
This sounds like a long distance romance that didn't work out. Too much time physically separated puts strain on a relationship.
You are probably right that he is using what you said as an excuse for breaking up. The odds are good that he has his eye on some other girl.
The fact that he won't talk about it is also significant. It means he really has no good excuse for breaking up. If you want to, put pressure on him to explain why he broke up... it usually doesn't take much arm twisting and it would be a good thing for you to know.
Trying to get him back at this point is iffy. If you can remain good friends with him that could lead to a mending of this broken fence.
Sorry you are in this position!
-- from George
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