Parents won't let them date so they sneak around
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
Hello. I need help. I am going to be 19 and my gf is going to be 16 in 2 weeks. One incident where i thought she was cheating on me because some guys said she was had messed things up because i had called her dad (we are close) and asked him what was going on. comes to be she was at someones house she wasnt suppose to be at and that he was mad. The next day her mom wanted us to break up. Since then, i havent been to her house once. and she has had to sneek out to see me. she says everything will be okay in time and that her mom will eventually let us see eachother. but. her mom is like trying to control her life, and because she is in love, she dont want us together and is blaming me for being too serious. This is a relationship and ONE person isnt a relationship. its me and my g/f and my g/f is as serious as me and has asked alot of love from me to make things the way they are today. but the point is. that her mom says im too serious for her and wants things to slow down. now in that case. wouldnt she let her daughter live and learn? i mean she isnt her daughter and she WONT let her live, but she let the older daughter live it up and dated a guy for 2 years and let them do w/e. and still lets them do w/e and they arent even dating. how is this fair to me and my g/f? and what can we do to see eachother and get her mom to accept that she is in love?.
My advice is the same as your girlfriends... let time heal this problem.
And, when your girlfriend turns 16 her parents may have a different view of things. Perhaps after she is 16 you should have a pow-wow with her parenets and straighten things out with them.
That is better than sneaking around behind their backs. They probably have already guessed that you are sneaking around but they can use it as ammunition against you.
So, hang loose for a couple of weeks and then have a talk with her parents (including her too).
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com