She cares for you
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
I really like this site it seems to work a little. Well anyways.I am 17 and this girl (who is 16) that is my "best friend" i think im in love with her. I have told her how i feel about her and she says she wants to stay friends. But what gets me is she plays these games like one day she will flirt with me "alot" and then the next day she will act like she dont want to talk to me at all, i dont understand. Like for example one day i was at her house and we were watching t.v. and i was sittin really close to her and she laid her head on my shoulder and kinda rubbed my legs and then the next day she acted like she didnt want me around her. And two times we played the weegee board and both times she asked it if me and her were going to have sex, both times it said yes and i never moved the thing to it. Thats what comfuses me about her i dont know if she wants to be friends or anything more or less. Can you PLEASE help me to get her love me the same as i love her.
Ask her why she acts nice one day and then ignores you the next.
Be gentle and considerate as you ask her so that she does not become defensive. Or you could even be more specific by saying that on Monday you felt really close to her but then on Tuesday she seemed to be distant.
The problem with this approach is that she will probably deny understanding what you are saying. There is very little you can do if she is really playing games because she probably doesn't know that she is.
To get her to love. There are many factors that can help bring her to loving you. Trust--you need to be there for her at all times--this includes reliablity and honesty. Communications--you need to develop a deep exchange of thoughts and feelings. Respect--you need to respect her as a person, including her faults. Physical attraction-- you need to dress as well as you can, take care of your physical hygiene (brush your teeth, keep your hair presentable, nails clean, etc.) Similar outlook on life-- you laugh at the same things, have common interest, and have similar morality.
If you can make her see and feel these qualities, that will be a huge step toward her developing love for you.
I wish you the best of luck!
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com