She yelled at him too much and lost himVisitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
my boyfriend and i split up yesterday because of me. i didnt quite understand but now i get that for the 5 months he was trying to tell me that all i thought about was myself. and that is true. when he would say no i would blow up at him and yell and yell. so he told me it got to the point where he was unhappy and said yes so that he wouldnt get yelled at. i have been begging him and trying to compromise with him on this and ask for another chance to let me change now that i know what was bothering him. he told me a miracle would have to happen for us to be together again but not for a while cuz he needs so space which is understandable. i think i have figured out that if i can show him that im not selfish and wanna put others before myself like i used to,(which is what got him to like me in the first place) then i think he will know that i tried to be a better person for him and family. so my question to you is: do you have any suggestions on how to show him i wanna change? i would do anything but i dont know how to show him if all we are is casual friends. please help and sorry this is so long but i have never wanted anything as bad as him.
It's time for being a good friend to him. Start off by always agreeing with him and offering to do things for him. This will impress him that you are trying to change your ways.
Hopefully with a little time what you had will rekindle. Right now he is hurt and resentful and needs to get over that.
Once you are back together again. Be very careful not to yell at him. Discuss things and compromise.
Hope this helps you some!
-- from George
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