Keep in contact with ex or not?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
My girlfriend and I recently broke up 2 months ago. (She broke up with me). I miss her incredibly and been in a state of depression ever since. I know she misses me too.
The only contact I have with her is on MSN Messenger. We usually talk about nothing. (not on us I mean). We may joke around and say goodnight type thing. My question is should I remain in contact with her at all? I’m stuck between two decisions and lately wondered if its normal... If ask her to stop the MSN relationship, she can do 2 things. She might miss me and would want to reunite sometimes down the road, or I may loose that contact altogether forever.
If I do keep in contact, perhaps she’ll realize what we had had never fully desolved but on the other hand it may never pick up again and might catch myself in this same hurtful spot down the road (like if she beings seeing someone for instance)
What do you recommend?
Should I tell her what I think, should I simply delete the contact or keep it active and keep our conversations going?
The last thing I want is to fall into "friend mode".
You've analyzed the situation in all it's ramifications so I can't add much to what you have already said.
My preference would be to continue the contact and hope for the best. If you are ever ready to cut off communications you will recognize it and do so.
Best of luck!
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com