Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
This is more of a question for one of my friends I am trying to help. She really likes this guy she has told me about but he has a girlfriend, T*** and they have been going out for about 2 years. It was obvious that he liked her somewhat because she has told me that anytime they go to the movies they end up holding hands and have kissed more than once- even though he's dating T***. He apparently talks to my friend all the time about how T*** bugging him. He doesn't like T***s friends and him and T*** fight all the time. My friend loves him to death but he doesn't really plan on breaking up with T***. She talks to him about other guys that like her and she might go out with them, and asks him for advice. He tells her it's okay with him, but then afterwards he'll say something like "In a way if you start going out with him it is going to make me really upset". I know I shouldn't be playing matchmaker- I am more just trying to help her...but I am more than positive that this guy she likes really likes her back and just has a hard time with changes and losing more than 2 years of memories with his girlfriend. Is there anything at all I can tell my friend to do?
Your friend should wait until he has the desire and gumption to break up with T***. All they are doing now is cheating. She should not encourage this behavior because it is wrong and it will also boomerang on her if she is not careful.
Hope all this turns out ok!
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com