I broke up with him twice, I want him back again
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I want my ex back for a 3rd time. could it ever happen?
We went out my freshman yr in college for 6 months, then i broke up with him before summer started in May we hung out over the summer a few times. Then we got back to school and seeing him around made me miss him, and seeing that another girl was after him made me very jealous we ended up getting back together in oct and just broke up 3 weeks ago over x-mas break.
i want him back again. there are alot of things that he did that i did not like, very jealous but he always knew how to make me smile and not seeing him everyday or talking to him at all is killing me. i still love him and i want him back he said he is very hostile towards me because he does not want to get hurt a 3rd time by me. what do i do?
I have to say, if you really loved him and were that happy with him, you wouldn't have kept dropping him. Something about the relationship didn't make you happy. And sure, when he's not around you are sad and lonely and don't like to be alone. So you remember the good parts of what you had. But you've already proven twice that when you have him, there are other bad parts that outweigh the good. I really think if you dated him again that you'd just break up again when the mood struck you. Which is exactly what he's worried about.
Dating on the rebound is a REALLY bad idea. Which is in essence what you want to do. Instead, take some months off. Spend time with your friends, do things you enjoy doing, get comfortable with the fact that you CAN be happy without him. Learn more about what you want out of life. If the only reason you want to be with him is that you hate being alone, you'll want him less once you are happy on your own. But if you are happy on your own after a few months, but still think being with him could make it even sweeter, it would be time to talk with him about being friends again.
-- from Jenn
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