Jealousy threatens relationship
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
my boyfriend has been friends with this girl since the 10th grade. he thinks she is pretty and they just recently starting talking to each other on the phone. i got really jealous and upset and told him i didn't trust him anymore. now when i try to talk to him on the phone he seems real short and distant with me, and i have to call him all the time because he won't call me anymore. i don't know what to do, we have been together for 2 years and i am so in love with him if i were to leave i would miss him deeply. i just feel like he doesn't love me anymore and just doesn't want to be with me. how can i make this better?
Maybe he likes this old friend more than you know, or maybe you hurt him by what you said to him. Have an old-fashioned honest conversation with him and try to get to the bottom of this.
Try to control your jealousy using this trick: whenever you have a jealous feeling just say to yourself "he is my boyfriend and he loves me." Do it often enough and the jealous feelings will give up.
-- from George
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