She Wanted Space
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
My girlfriend broke up with me for space or something like that but now i want her back so how do i show her that i truly love her and that us having space is truly not the way to go.
Read through some of the other questions that have come to the site on the topic of 'wanting space' and you'll see that usually someone who wants space is really looking to see if there's something better out there. If people are happy, they rarely ask to leave the happiness. So she was unhappy, and probably wants some time to either think about if she can deal with this unhappiness, or find someone else that makes her more happy, or both.
You need to find out what *really* bothered her about the relationship. Something about it wasn't right. And the key to a relationship is to talk about issues, not just run away from them. If she has this "run away when not happy" attitude then no matter who she dates she won't be happy, because every relationship has its ups and downs. So this is an important thing for her to realize.
Invite her out to dinner as friends and say you want to learn more about what grated on her from your relationship. If she's hesitant, say you want to have a resolution to make yourself a better person, and that you need her advice. That might make her feel good about talking, that she's helping you out. If she does say things, don't argue or contradict her, just let her talk and then say you can work on whatever it is.
Hopefully the fact that you're talking about it will help, and the fact that you are saying you can work on her issues will help too.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com