We have to hid our relationship
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
i feel like i am not being a good friend. my bestfriend has had feelings and had fallen head over heels for this guy. while i was away living in california.. i would here nothing else but talks about how great this guy was. im now back here to live in virginia. in a couple of months of just getting to know him we've gotten so close. my best friend and my boyfriend dont talk to eachother anymore because my bestfriend got her heart broken. she got the wrong idea and thought he had feelings for her. he never tried to lead her on. i didn't know of my feelings for him until he told me that he was falling for me. we both relate a lot and lived somewhat similar lives. i've never met a guy where i can find "true" feelings for. i feel so complete around him and im not actually playing anymore games. i feel that what ive found is real and serious. we talk every night. we practically know eachother too much. we recently hooked up and are now together. we have to hide our relationship from my bestfriend. she is still trying to get over things... she feels like she will never get married b/c she has never had a boyfriend. i feel like im stealing her guy.. even though he has no feelings for her. we have to hide our secret relationship.. my bestfriend and and my boyfriend and i both attend the same church. we also have to hide this from people in church. they dont approve of relationships with oneanother in church. my dad is the pastor of our church. do u think what i'm doing is right? we're hiding this from my bestfriend, friends, family and the church. do u feel that i amd doing everything wrong?
You are in a tough situation. If you tell your friend, she will probably be mad and spread it around the church and your father will find out and tell you you can't see your guy anymore.
I wouldn't normally give this kind of advice, but having read your question the feelings I am getting suggest that you continue seeing your boyfriend but keep it secret. It is bound to come out sooner or later, so you need to be prepared for possible heartbreak.
The normal advice which I am not giving is to talk this over with your girlfriend and then your parents and hope that everything turns out ok. I just don't think it will turn out ok.
Hoping you have very good luck on this,
-- from George
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