Big time jealousy problem
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
My girlfriend and I have known each other for 5 years and started dating 4 months ago, we got engaged in late december, she loves me, and I know this, and I love her more than words can express. We only get to see each other once a month, lately she's been acting different, see says it's because of the stress of school and because she's been tired, BUT, she is "friends" with some guy, she is with him every day after school and on the phone with him, she is always talking about him and is going camping with him to ride quads with his family this weekend. I'm really getting suspicious, I lay in bed for about 6 hours every night beating my head in wondering if she's cheating on me. I'm terrified that she is because I'll flip out and dismember the guy, what do you think could be going on? I need some help,answers, anything. I can't handle the thought of her with another guy without having a panic attack and wanting to amputate my penis and send it to a priest. Please get back to me asap. Thanks
What might help you most right now is to learn to deal with your jealousy. I'm sure your fiancee can pick up on your feelingss and that creates tension in your relationship. You can see tips about dealing with jealousy at: http://www.romanceclass.com/miscr/LoveCat/23682
If you haven't done so already, you need to have a long honest heart to heart talk with your fiancee about how she is feeling right now. Trust and honesty are two very important parts of a relationship and communication is part of that.
There are many girls who can have male friends but still be faithful to their parter. Probably most girls are like that.
On the other hand, in is natural for you to worry about what is going on. That is why you need to clear the air with her. You need to get to the point where you trust her. Afterall, if you don't think she is trustworthy now, what happens when you get married. Your jealousy could cloud your whole future relationship with her.
When you have that talk with her, be gentle and understanding and trust her.
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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