No sexual contact
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I'm an engaged woman and I'm going to move in with my fiance in less than 40 days, but I'm so nervous. Me and him have never had any sexual contact going on between us and I haven't done anything sexual in two years. How can I handle my nervous problem of being with him for the first time in two years?
Taking your words literally that you have had no sexual contact with your fiancee, that make me worry about what you are getting into. It is highly abnormal to have no sexual contact at all. Maybe you mean that you haven't had sexual intercourse. That is more normal and easier to address. The best thing you can do is to just let nature take its course when you are in bed together. If you have to take the initiative then go ahead and do so.
It still bothers me that you said no sexual contact. If you haven't gone beyond hugging and kissing then something is wrong. You should have a heart to heart talk with your fiance and find out what is going on in his mind. You have a lot to talk about. Tell him (if it is true) that you are comfortable having sexual contact so that if he is shy it will loosen him up.
Don't let this go until you move in together... get it out on the table now.
-- from George
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