Tell it like it is
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I have a problem with my future husband. I am having big problems trusting him. I know that my best friend is really attracted to him, and she finds him "gorgeous". She has also told me on several occasions that she has such bad sex with her husband. This makes me worry.
She is quite a lot older than we are, T* and I are 28 and 26. S* is 38 and her Husband 39.
T* seems to enjoy her jokes and attention, and makes fun with her all the time,and I think she is subtly seducing him. The Jealousy and insecurity is making me crazy. I do not know if I should trust my Partner, and my friend.......I am going crazy thinking about it all the time, and I do not know what to do to get all these bad feelings away, I am having these bad feelings all the time.
I worry about them phoning with each other,
or writing emails to each other, and I am not even certain if they do... I just canīt keep these worrying thoughts from filling my mind and driving me insane with fear and jealousy.
If I confront her with my Jealousy, and tell her friend the truth - that I cannot trust her, and that she makes me jealous because I have the feeling she is flirting with my Boyfriend, I might loose her as a friend, and I donīt want to loose her with falsch accusations ....On the other hand the Jealousy needs to be sorted out and answered ....
Is confrontation the best solution ? And how can I get myself to stop worrying about my partner??
Tell your fiance that his interactions with your friend are hurting you. If he cares for you, he will cut it out. Make it clear that you trust him but that you are jealous. Whenever you start to worry, just say to yourself "He loves me and everything is ok." Say it enough times and you will believe it.
Also, see out tips on jealousy at: http://www.romanceclass.com/miscr/LoveCat/23682
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com