My Ex Seems Interested in Me
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
My boyfriend broke up with me but he didn't really know why he did. Then he said he wanted to possibly get back with me, well those plans changed as soon as he got hooked up with this girl his mother arranged for him to go out with. anyway he has been going out with her for about a month or so and he has still been calling me! He has been calling me more than he has her and he never ever wants to do anything with her. I still have strong feelings for him.
Well about a week ago or so his girlfriend went to his work and put a rose on his car and she thought he would suspect it to be from her...WRONG he calls me up and asks me if it was from me. Well anyway she found out and she broke up with him. She told him that she couldn't trust him with me. She thought he would cheat on her.
Well then her best friend is one of my friends and she told me that she (meaning the girlfriend) found out that he had been talking to me and she also heard that he was telling his buddies he wants to get back with me which is what I want more than anything.
But anyway I e-mailed him and asked him about the whole rose story and he said that he didn't think it was her type of thing to do, and he said it really didn't seem like mine either but it was worth a shot. And anyway I mean if you were going out with someone and you found a rose on your car who would you suspect your girlfriend/boyfriend or your ex-girlfriend/ex-boyfriend? I mean does it possibly mean that he still has feelings for me if he thinks it was from me? Do you think he wanted it to be from me instead? The two of us have been talking back ad forth lately. But I want him back and I want to know if he feels the same. What do I do?? Please help me!
First, I really warn against getting information or spreading information through friends. It's a really dangerous way to learn or share news and can backfire quite badly. Your best bet is always to talk directly with the person you want to know more about.
It sounds like this other girl was pretty immature. Many (if not most) guys talk to their ex-girlfriends sometimes, it's a normal, healthy thing. For her to break up with him just because he called you about the rose is pretty childish. Next time, maybe she should attach a note :)
For him to call you does mean he thinks of you, and thinks that you are fond of him (to assume you might leave him a rose). And pretty obviously if he calls you a lot, he likes you.
Valentine's Day is coming up. Since he's now no longer going out with someone, I'd ask him to go out with you just as friends. Don't rush into more serious things, let him get over his ex. But keep being his friend. He'll probably say yes, and you can go from there!
-- from Jenn
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