Wife wants a divorce
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
My wife and I broke up about a year ago, then we were not married. Her reason for breaking up was that I evaded her personal space and that she needed to casually date and meet other people since she was forced into adulthood hood at a young of 18.we got back eight months later, after she had been with someone else , had a breast implant and did drugs. Her reason was that she knew I loved her and I was the right person for her. I visisted for the first time in 8 months and we arranged to get married in vegas. I chickened out because I hated all the changes and things she had been through during our seperation. I ignored these feelings because I love her she also makes a lot more money than i do. We curted for a while and tried to break it off from time to time with her help but came back crying and shoveing me with the guilt trip. I finally gave in and we got married 5 months later. on the wedding night she found out I had genital warts which blew her mind up. From then on she mentioned getting an annullment. she helped me treat it and I am fine and clean now. We moveed to Georgia and 7 days after geting a new cell phone I her Ex boy friend texts messages her.this is the begining of the problem. it was discovered on new years eve which automatically was ruined. Anyway I asked how come and the story was that he was handling business for her. then she askes me to help her send pictures of the house we got in Georgia to her girl friend and out of suspicion I asked to see how she sent them intially and found 2 emails sent to he r ex boyfriend with some pictures of the house. Hell broke loose again. My question is since our breaking up the first time was because of something similar and now it's repeating itself again but now we are married. what can I do to stop this pain, or overcome this mistrust I have for her. Because now she says she wants an annullment/divorce and I still love her but I hate her actions and the way she looks at marriage. She has a 13 year old and got married before and divorced after 6 months. she always gives me reason to snoop thru her email and cell phone calls and I always find some thing based on her reactions. please help me figure out what I need to do.
My advice is to get a divorce before you have any children. She obviously is not travelling down the same path as you are and why should you have to suffer for it? Have a long, honest talk with her before making any final decisions to be sure that you have understood her correctly.
-- from George
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