about a year ago we went six months with out sex.
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
Hey there. I have been with my girlfriend 3years now and our sex life has never been consistant. At times it is regular as clock work and about a year ago we went six months with out sex. It picked up again and it was great but now its dead again. So i asked my girlfriend what was wrong. After a lot of beating around the bush she finally told me that her biggest vice is that she is just lazy and at times she jus cant be botherd with the physical side of sex, however she told me that after we have had sex she thinks to herslef that we should do this a lot more often but when it comes to the next time she feels to lazy. What do i do? I know it isn't the most important part of a relationship but it is a big part and i am starting to feel neglectetd. I never know when it is a good time to have sex with her, it is getting to a point where i am becoming uncomfortable touching her because i am sick of being rejected in this way. I told her this but she said "what can i say? i am just lazy? this is true, i mean shes always late for work, never on time for anything, her bedroom is never tidy and shes always up to all hours in the morning because she can never sleep, so i suggested getting professional for her sleep disorder. However is there anything i can do on the sex front in the mean time?
Look for a compromise. Try to figure out how many times a week you both want to have sex. Then set what days and times are best and try to stick to that schedule. It takes the sponteneity out of sex, but it also should keep you both satisfied.
Another option is to see a sex therapist for advice (see phone book).
Don't let this problem fester or it will get worse. And find out what she is doing up so late at night... if she is on the computer she may be into cybersex.
-- from George
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