17 yr old In love with professor
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Dear to whoever this is being addressed,
I am 17 years old and a student. The problem is, is that I think I may have fallen in love with my teacher at school. He teaches me sociology and is 34 years of age. I think the main reason why I may have feelings for him is because we have one on one lessons; at first it was intimidating and unusual, but after a while I started liking the lessons even more and more. I started getting comfortable..maybe a little "too" comfortable. I am a very good looking girl which most boys hit on, and I can't imagine how I could have fallen in love with a teacher twice my age, bald, short, and plain looking. At first his appearance gave me a laugh, and now I fell head over heels for him. What interests me most is the way he talks, how he smiles, how sarcastic and funny his jokes may be. I don't know whether or not he has fallen for me, but at the beginning of the school year when he found out it was just me who wanted to take this sociology class he almost panicked. He went around pleading for people to join his sociology class (what I heard from other students) is it because he can't focus on his teaching when he's near me? anyways the strange thing is that sometimes he acts so professional and formal and other times he makes jokes and looks like he wants to get to know me better....this school I go to is in moscow...a british international school...and he apparently came here, to moscow, from london 5 years ago for better pay..so once I asked him how he manages to talk russian so well...and he told me he has a russian girlfriend---he asked me if I wanted to know how he met her...and I said "sure" so then he's like "she was my student" ---I felt so strange and confused at the same time..I didn't understand why he would say this to me even if it were true..what was he counting on? or am I just an immature little girl who doesn't understand anything? (I then found out later from another teacher that he taught "IT" for adults in a different part of moscow). I sometimes even feel how he may stare at my chest..or the way he looks at me sometimes. It is funny how on some days he can be completely rude to me, and at other times overly sweet? what is this? I am so confused...another time in our "one on one" class when the topic was informal interviews about sex---and if the interviews were accurate or not...in the textbook it says teenagers now a days have different slang words for sexual activities..he commented on this by saying... "yeah that's for sure, I would think someone was ordering a cocktail or something if I heard some of those words aloud" and that made me think...he knows exactly what I'm thinking about when he says that..so why does he say it? and whenever possible he keeps saying how his girlfriend and him went there and here, as if "reminding" me and first of all himself he has one and not to get off track and fall in love with someone else, for example, me. Sometimes I hate him, and sometimes I love him.. I think about him day and night,night and day and listen to love songs all the time....what is this??!!please help.
thanks in advance.
If he keeps mentioning his girlfriend you can be reasonably sure that he is warning you off. It is very common for people to fall in others who are in a position of authority... for example, doctors, professors, teachers, etc.
You need to ween yourself away from loving him and find someone else to focus your attentions on.
-- from George
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