She is gone
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
I was seperated from my wife (we have 3 children & 1 child being 2 months old when we met) for about 4 months when I met & fell in love with this wonderful woman. She was also seperated with 1 child. I was afraid to tell her about the seperation & children so I lied about the ex & kids. 8 months later I told her about the children but lied & told her about 2 of them because of what she might think & not wanting her to know about the ex & time we were married.
To cover her finding out I told her an incorrect last name if she checked records. We got engaged & starting planning our wedding when she found out my true last name. A short time later she found out I had been married & was in the process of a divorce. I never meant to hurt her & I was always faithful never cheated on her. She has lost trust & faith & now says I'm dead in her eyes. Any suggestions on getting her to talk to me & maybe start as friends to get the relationship back going?
Thank you for any help!
I don't blame her for having lost trust in you. And, trust is one of the cornerstones of a good relationship. In my opinion she is gone for you. If, however you want to give it a try, you should work on the trust part very, very hard.
-- from George
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