Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
Well, I've been with her for around 4 months. At the beginning of the relationship, we talked on the phone for hours everyday, and now not only do we not talk very often but we also have arguements all the time. First let me give you the background: I live 2 cities from her and our main source of communication is the phone or on AIM. I rarely get to see her, maybe every weekend but not always. We've broken up once, but went back out. And the few past weeks have been nothing but arguements. The convo starts off all good and we're having a great time and then there comes a part where someone misunderstands the other. Like just a few minutes ago, we were on AIM and she says I'm assuming her feelings rather than knowing, but she never tells me how she feels, and I have to go based on her comments, which on AIM you can't show sarcasm or whatever. I just want this to end, and to know if it's normal. It's only started a few weeks ago, and since then, with a few exceptions, its been constant disagreements. I love her, and she claims the same for me, but whenever I try to get her to calm down, or ask what I said wrong or if she misunderstood it, she just turns all b*tchy at me and then leaves. Please help, I really need to know if this kinda thing is just a phase and it will end, or if it's normal, or if it's something thats inevitable and can only be solved by ending the relationship. Thanks.
Tell her that you two obviously are having troubles and if she is unwilling to talk about them openly and honestly then it is probably time you two to split. If nothing else, that should catch her attention.
-- from George
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