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Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I am trying to help a friend with an issue and I am not sure just what exactly to say to her.. My friend has been married for a little over 2 years now, they married before he left for over seas, when he came back they got a house together. The problem is there are issues at home and she is not happy. He supposedly changed when he got back, they have not been intimate for months and she says she doesn't even remember when they actually kissed. The big problem though is he does not want to talk about anything at all. She has tried many times to get him help and try to find out what is bothering him and he just shrugs it off like it is a joke.. she says there are times when she can't even stand to go home. Here is the twist. My friend resorted to talking to and meeting this other guy last June who she says she loves very much and would be with him if it was not for the situation at home. I am guessing she is getting what she doesn't at home from him. I just do not know what to say to her. I want her to be happy but at the same time I know the situation is wrong for her husband and for the other guy who I hear loves her very much as well. I told her she needs to work out things at home first but she says she cannot do anything if he isn't willing to talk to her. I just care about my friend and I do not want to see anything bad happen here but at the same time I want her to be happy. Things with her and this other guy seem to be getting more involved lately the way she is talking, they slept together for the first time last month and from the conversations with her things of course are getting more deeper. Is there anything I can do or say to her at this point? From a concerned friend.
I would recommend that she tell her husband that they need to go to a marriage counselor and if he is not willing she should find a divorce lawyer.
-- from George
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