Helping boyfriend through his parents' divorce
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
My boyfriend and I have been together for about Five months now, he recently has been acting very sad and depressed and I could not figure out why i asked him everyday what was wrong thinking that i might have done something to make him that way. He always replyed its nothing don't worry about it, so i wouldn't force out any answers in worry i would annoy him. Today he told me that his mother and her current husband are thinking about getting a divorce. His real mother and father were married twice and divorced twice with each other. She has been with her current husbad for about 3 years now and has a 3 year old son with him. He replyed to me i could never understand how it feels and how unfair it is to his little brother to go through all of this, him knowing what it is already like. I am asking you for advice on how i can help him through this rough time, with out annoying him or forcing him to talk to me. If you have any advice for me please e-mail me back as soon as possible
He will be touchy and irritable for a while, so make sure you give him emotional support. Figure out whether he wants to talk about his subject often or infrequently and follow his wishes. Let him know you are there to talk with if he needs it. Do a web search on Kubler-Ross on the stages of grief and it may help you understand the stages of grief he is going thru.
Here is a URL for one: http://www.growthhouse.org/books/kubler1.htm
Hope things work out for you,
-- from George
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