Married male flirts in his emails
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I basically need an opinion on this little predicament that I'm in. So let's say you know this guy for about 8 years right.....the first 4 years was getting to know him and the last 4 years we really didn't have that much contact at all until now. Now we've been keeping contact by emailing each other. The emails at first were pretty basic like, 'hi how are you?' type of stuff but lately they've become really flirtatious emails and more so coming from him then me (but he's always picked on me and teased me ever since I've known him). Now the deal here is, is that this guy is married and I know his family fairly well. So at first I was kinda worried....(I mean I can handle the flirting, that doesn't bother me at all) but just the fact that he is married. So just recently in our email correspondence he basically came out and said that yes he does have morals and would never follow through on what he's said to me in these emails. Basically he used the words 'I'm just an old married man' and 'I'm like an old faithful dog, I just like to talk a lot of talk.' So that is fine with me and all, I mean his flirting behavior towards me doesn't make me feel uncomfortable or anything like that, but if he's telling me that he's faithful etc. then does that mean its okay to continue talking like he is too me??? I believe in freedom of speech and everything, but being married and saying you'd never stray from home but then carrying on an email correspondce where your saying stuff to someone other then your wife that you shouldn't probably be saying (even if it is just talk and teasing) doesn't justify anything right?? So I'm alittle confused on this matter? Is he in the wrong here even though he blatantly explained to me more or less that he would never stray from home but continues to flirt with me in such a way. I think he's just having alittle harmless fun...cause after all it is just 'talk' but then again he is married. So what do you think?
Doesn't sound too bad to me. You will have to be the judge of whether he is crossing the line with his flirting or if he starts to get serious. Be careful, innocent flirting can eventually turn into something more. Obviously you want to avoid that.
-- from George
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