Long distance love not working
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
Known her for four years, three of which have been long distance. near the beginning after she had left the both of us had a six month long distance relationship which did not last on her part due to no physical interactions, understandable. Since then we have had a "lable" of Good Friends, if we were in the same city we would be in a relationship. I have a full time job and a grad of high school, she is a grad at the end of this last year. With that said breifly, I have accepted the terms in which her and I have discussed and understand her thoughts as she does mine, we have no problems communicating outside the ordinary and our friendship is strong. The problem I suffer from is not that I cannot move on but both her and I feel as though we love each other considering all of ths situations we have in our past, such as myself going to see her and vice versa. I just don't seem to agree with her going out with other guys if she feels as though she loves me and knows that I love her, I do not which to assume, yet I think she is going out with other guys for somewhat for the physical aspect. I have accepted it through the years yet to my mind it seems and in someways feels as though it were disrespect to what her and I have. She knows how I feel about it and I am free to do what I want on any level of my life and she accepts that yet I do nothing, just becuase I love her and it would just not feel "right". I feel as though I cannot move on due to the amount of hope in which I hang on to. Trying to make this short, what should I do? I have had many opinions and it seems as though the most logical is the least of which I wish to do, how am I to go about this? hopefully not much longer to wait for her in some aspects, and feel as though it is not "right" to walk away for how much I have put into making this sort of thing work. I dont feel I can walk away, so what can I do?
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A long distance romance is not going to last forever. One or the other of you has to move to be together. Until then, your agreement that you can see other people has to stand, as difficult as it might be. My advice is to quit your job and move to be with her... as long as she agrees. If she doesn't have a job, then she should move to be with you. If you keep investing in this relationship the way it is, you are throwing good money after bad.
-- from George
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