Heart big enough for two
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I am 24 and engaged to the man of my dreams! We have been dating for 7yrs now and I couldnt be happier that we are going to be married. The problem is that about a year ago I found another man...who I thought could be the man of my dreams. Turns out as fate would have it, he is married with a new baby.
Every bone in my body knows that having feelings for this guy is wrong! But I cant help my self. I think about him all the time and imagine our life together and haveing kids with him not my fiance. Is there something wrong with me? How can I be such a witch, I mean he is married!
To this day we have flirted and exchnged tokens of our feelings. He has never never cheated nor will I. But I am torn that is this guy my true love and we just met to late? And if so how am I to proceed and marry a man that is so great and deserves so much more than me?
All my friends say that it is just a crush and it will blow over, but I have been waiting a year and all the feelings are still there. I even went away for a few months frustrated with the situation and before I left he got me a ring (frienship). I want him to leave his wife and be with me, does this make me a bad person.
But if he wont leave his wife I will marry my fiance...what a little shit I am.
Please help me figure out the right answer!!!
Heart big enough for 2
You ought to get counselling to help you figure out your feelings. Also, you might want to tell your fiance the truth. No relationship is going to be good and lasting with a secret like that. It is not unusual for people to love two others, and the thing to do is to leave the married man alone and tell your fiance your secret. If you don't I see disaster coming.
-- from George
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