Break up this bad relationship
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
It's me again.
My ex has patched back wt me few days ago.
I was really happy about it.
But we have a problem...
He doesn't seem to treasure me now and he seems to take me for granted.
E.g i don't receive any sweet msgs from him.
He seldom asks me out. And when i ask him out, he won't confirm the time and venue. And if we have confirmed on the venue n time, he wld cancel it last minute.
Sometimes i try to ask him things or tell him what i am unhappy about, he seems frustrated n tends to become fierce and then wld keep quiet and close his eyes to sleep...
Before we patched up, i've already told him that i do not want those things to happen (e.g cancelling our dates last min)
but he is still doing these...
I love him n do not want to give up...
But i don't know what to do...
it's hard to communicate wt him now...
Sometimes i asked him out to meet up, he'd say he just wanted to stay at home. But later he'd end up going out wt his frds...
My ex-bf n i have been hanging out these few days.
It seems like he'd not patch back wt his gf anymore.
And it seems like we are already planning to get back together.
I tried having a talk wt him, talk about us.
He did say that he needed some time.
I was ok with it. He said he'd need about one month's time.
I'd like to ask...am i on the right track?
Is 1 month too long? or should i hurry up and grab the opportunity?
And what should i or he do to show that we are confirmed together (after we patch back)?
I'm afraid that we might patch back but the next day he'd tell me it's not confirmed....
I saw that my phone number wasn't even on his mobile's address book...what should i do because i really want my name in his mobile's address book...
i asked him why my number wasn't inside, he told me it was because he already cld memorize my number.
I don't know how to explain it...
i juz want to be recognised...acknowledged...
My advice is to not waste your love on him since he treats you so poorly. That is easy for me to say. You are blinded by love and can't get him to change since he is unwilling. If he won't communicate, there is little hope for your relationship. So, why not be the one to break it off?
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com