Rekindling the old flame
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
About 8 months ago, my girlfriend and I broke up after 3 1/2 years together. We lived together and were very much in love with eachother. We did leave on a good note though. We broke up because she was a little jealous and insecure about all my female friends and because I wouldn't do things that she wanted to do or show her I cared enough. Neither of us wanted to but we were both too stubburn to work on our issues.
Since then, she really hasn't dated much but I on the other hand, got into a relationship that lasted about 5 months shortly after the breakup. The whole time I was in this relationship, I wanted her to be like my ex and I wanted our relationship to be just like my previous. Of course, it didn't work out though.
From this new relationship, I realized that I made a huge mistake leaving a great relationship. I grew up a lot and actually became the person that my ex always wanted me to be. And since the day we broke up, I haven't stopped thinking of her and now I want her back more than anything. Only thing is, is that when I got into the new relationship, it hurt her really bad and I don't know if she'll be able to get past that.
We have stayed really good friends over this time, so she knows everything I've done since our break up. I just hope that it isn't too late to rekindle an old flame with her. How do I let her know that I've changed into the person she always wanted me to be and what can I do to maybe get things off the ground. I know if we do get back together, things will be so much better for both of us. Thanks.
The answer is good communication. You are close friends, so it would not be out of the ordinary for you to say "I am starting to feel those old feelings for you, how do you feel?" Also, see our tips at: http://www.romanceclass.com/miscr/LoveCat/9
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