Keep on being friends
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
hi,i am 18 years old,i love a girl she studies in my college. i am doing b.tec in mechanical engineering & she is doing the same in electronics & telicommunication.i met her on third day of my college,and since then i had a crush on her.i did not express my feelings to her then. i thought of giving it some more time. we were good friends then.we both used to go to the native plact together.soon many of my friends got to know about it.the were like after me to express my feelings to her.but i still thought of giving some more time.i talked about it to her friend(who was & is a very good friend of mine).she said me that she already had a boyfriend. i was like very upset then.i did not know how to react.i ignored it.one day we met in the canteen.she was a bit upset.i asked her the reson but she did not reply.next day my friend(the same mentioned above)told me that she came to know about everything,and she does not want to talk to me,as her boyfriend did not wanted her to do so.i also learned that her boyfriend stays in a very far city where she did not visit yet.the hav met only for 5 times.and they are net friends.after 2 days i met her and talked to her.she agreed on being friends.but the relationship wosent the same.i dont know what to do? i love her,& dont know how to inprove my relationship with her.please help.
Do the best you can at being her best friend. Give her an opportunity to tell you what her troubles are and her joys. If you can become her best friend, your odds of eventually becoming a boyfriend are greatly increased. After all, you are close at hand and he is far away. Do not cheat with her however, as it will have consequences in your relationship down the road.
-- from George
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