Jealousy of of control
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
When me and my husband were engaged he cheated on me. He said he was so scared of never knowing another woman ect. (I was his first). He did it with a mutual friends sister, a woman I trusted him with. Now, 6 mths later she is back in town and I keep wondering constantly what if he goes back to her, what if he sleeps with her again, what if he leaves me for her. He says he has no interest in her and that it was the biggest mistake of his life (he even cried over it and he never crys) and will never do it again but I keep finding myself asking him what he's been doing, where he's been, and questioning his faithfulness. Can I get over this and learn to trust him again? I love him and don't want to lose him but my jealousy is getting out of control... Can you plaese help me? Thank you.
There are three things you can do. First do not mention the other woman to him again. He knows he did wrong and apologized profusely. If you are going to keep him, let bygones be bygones (in other words trust him). Second, whenever those thoughts come to your mind, say to yourself "But he loves me and would not hurt me." Third read the tips we have on jealousy at: http://www.romanceclass.com/miscr/LoveCat/23682
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com