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Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
hi, i have some issues and i hope you can help me out.

D. used to be the love of my life in high school. He was everything i wanted and i actually wrote him a love letter but he rejected me and said that he only saw me as a little sis. I was sad but still manage to keep in touch with him. Years later, i met this new guy named K. and though we only know each other for a very short period of time, we're very compatible. He understands me, cares for me, knows when i'm sad and always be there when i need him. He asked me to be his girlfriend but i told him to wait because D. was still on my mind.
Then one day, D. asked me to be his girlfriend. I was in shocked because i always thought that i'm his "little sis" as he mentioned in his rejection note. He explained that the reason he rejected me because he was not ready for serious relationship. I was also happy and said yes. I took him places, introduced him to my new college friends, did everything with him. It was really hard for me to tell K. that i agreed to be D's girlfriend. He actually cried and suddenly he kissed me right on the lips. I went home and spent night after night trying to figure out who i like more, D. or K. I was still D's girlfriend but didn't pick up his calls nor going out with him. after one week of thinking, i broke up with D because K. was the one. (at least i think he was). During that week, K. met my long-lost friend and they had sex. The girl called me and told me that he had been avoiding her after that day. She told me how much she loved him even though they juz met for the first time and how much she wanted him to be her boyfriend. She wanted me to tell K to get back with her even though she's currently someone else's gf. She confessed that she did seduce K. and maybe that's the reason he does not respect her. I didn't know what to do. One side is my long time friend, and one side is my love. I called K. and he confessed the story. He said he made a mistake and he still love me alot. He told me that my friend only "thought" that she's in love with him because she's really lonely (her bf lives far away) and she can't stand her family. She wanted a way to get out and move in with him. i'm really confused so i'm avoiding everyone. But i have to make my decisions soon because i can't hide like this forever. What can i do? Should i get back with D. ? Should i go on with K or should i help my friend and fulfil her needs of being K.'s gf???
please help

helpless girl Advice
You do need help, but you are the one who has to help yourself. It's up to you to decide which boy you want. You may end up with neither if you don't make your intentions clear soon. If the decision is that close, that would indicate to me that you don't know who you want. In that case, wait until you do know. Be happy you have two guys to choose from, many girls have none.

Good luck,

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