What about the boyfriend?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
Hey. This is the “How to be more than just friends,” person.
Monday was the last day of Christmas Break, and I called her. The first day back at school is my birthday. I ask her if she’s going to give me a Birthday present and she said yes. Then I tell her that I’m just going to the movies for my birthday and I asked her if she would like to go. She said she’d try to go. So now it’s the first day back at school from Christmas break. After school I meet her at her locker and ask her what she got me for my B-day. [She gives me the (I kind of forgot) face.] Then she asks me what do I want. And I tell her “just a hug.” So were in the hallway and were about to give each other a hug and she hesitates and doesn’t hug me. We keep walking then all of a sudden one of my friends [which is a boy] starts talking to her. [I’ve never ever seen her talk to a boy so fluently.] We finally walk outside of the school and they give each other a kiss on the lips. [Please note that me and this girl are just friends, but I still have a little crush on her but trying not to show her.] Immediately she turns away from me thinking that I’m going to go crazy. Then I tell her that its all right because were just friends. So, I call her later on in the evening. I tell her, “ I know you want to be friends with me, but you got to let me know about things. I wouldn’t have asked for a hug if I knew he was your boyfriend.” She said she was sorry and tells me happy birthday. [Thinking that she’ll say no,] I ask her if she still wants to go to the movies. She still said she’d try. Then she told me she’d start calling me more often to tell me about things.
[I think this girl still likes me because every time I talk to her face to face she smiles.]The only problem is that she never calls me. The only time she called me was when we went out.
I just want to know am I getting played? Should I keep being friends with her? How can I get her to start calling me more often? How can we go to the movies together as friends and not let her boyfriend know that were just friends?
Just keep doing what you have been doing. If you are simply friends, there should be no problem. If your relationship goes beyond friendship then she needs to tell her (other) boyfriend about you. As you become closer, she will start calling you more.
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com