Long distance jealousy
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Person
I am not sure that I have a problem or not but my partner says I do. My partner was leaving the country next day when we met. Back to his own country he was studying and going out with a girl in the class,quite a few times alone. I told him that I am not comfortable him going out alone with that girl.offcourse he didnt stop. In the mean time he was talking to all his ex-s and telling me that he is not. I never asked if he is talking to his ex-s or not. He kept telling me that by himself.One of the his ex-s friend is now his younger brother's girlfriend. He wanted to have sex with her as well. On our first christams she tried to match him with one of her cousins and afterwards she expressed her desired to become his girlfriend. He is still in touch with her all the time. She keeps trying to match him with other girls or his ex-s. We have talked about this lots of times but without any results. He thinks that I am too jealous. Please tell me do I have a right to be jealous or not?
Jealousy is never a good thing. It means you don't trust your partner. Do you have the right to tell him not to go out with another girl... I don't think so. You need to communicate with him and ask him how he feels about you and if he thinks it is ok to go out with another girl. Since you are in different countries, and since you knew him for such a short amount of time, it may be that he is not that attached to you. You should clear this up with him so that you are not feeling bad.
-- from George
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