Be his best friend

Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Dear George,
sorry to bother you again.
My ex-bf told me he broke up wt his gf last nite. It was due to a big quarrel and he couldn't stand it anymore.
I used to ask him "What has she done for u?"
He said that "What you asked has a point. She hasn't done anything for me. You are right"
i went out wt him, tried to cheer him up. He seemed confused n frustrated at times, sad at times, happy at times.
Then he asked me to be his GF. I told him to settle everything wt her first.
He was supposed to watch movie with me today, but when i asked him about it today, he told me he juz wanted to stay home because he was feelin vexed.
I messaged him.
I asked him "were u serious when u asked me to be ur gf?"
He said "Don't know"
I said "u mean u are not sincere..."
He said "I will let u know later..."
I said "When you told me you love me, did u mean it? Or were u just using me. I don't mean to pressure you, but please spare a thought for me"
He replied "It's real...but i am confused now"
I asked "You wanted me to wait, how long do u need?"
He did not reply me anymore...
I felt so hurt...
But...I'm still not willing to give up...
So i messaged him "I know you are confused, that's fine. Remember i will be here :) But if in the end u decide u will not be with me, please let me know in advance"
He did not respond anymore...

George...What shd i do?
I feel so lost now...I really don't know what is the best thing to do to get him back to me...his heart to me...
This is the 2nd time they broke up and i don't understand why he still can't make up his mind...

>>>Wait for him
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Hi, I was the one who posted the question with the subject "Get the issues on the table"
Thank you very much for your answer. =)
I actually found it really hard to have a long and serious talk with him. He seems confused and frustrated recently...So i don't really want to pressurise him...I'm not sure if im doing the right thing...
But last nite, he actually told me that he wants to patch back with me,but can't be now, he's hoping i could wait a while.
Should i wait patiently as a friend? Or what should i do?
I'm not sure if his request for me to wait a while, means that he's going to find a chance to break up with his gf?

-------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Advice
Yes, the best thing you can do is wait for him. It sounds like he might be getting ready to come back to you.

Good luck,
George Advice
Wait patiently and be there for him when he needs you. Try talking to him on the phone and ask him how he is doing. Don't pressure him about being his girlfriend... just try to be his best friend at this point.

Good luck,

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