Divorced father needs a heads up
Visitor's Question from a 41-50 year old Female
My boyfriend of four years now has not told his l5 yr son that is in his custody about our relationship. I always give his son a Christmas gift and birthday gift. Last year I met his son. That Christmas I bought a gift for his son and gave a card. He like it very much. When I met his son he liked me very much and gave such a big bear hug I couldn't believe it. I invited them to stay for lunch but his son said no. So since then I have not seen his son. My boyfriend give his son the things I bought. He doesn't tell him they are from me. I gave his son a subcription to a magazine that he likes I put on the card from Santa. I did not tell him it was from me. My boyfriend says to me "that was you that sent that." I said I hope you didn't mind. He said I should have asked him first. But since I didn't put my name it was okay. My boyfriend has the hardest time telling his son. I asked my boyfriend can't his brothers or someone give him some pointers on how to tell him. My boyfriend is only dating me and we have been in love since the first year we went out together. Why do I have to check with my boyfriend first? Should I not give his son gifts? His son has recently found a girl friend of his own. He just went out on his first date. His son feels his mom and dad will get back together as any other kid would want. But my boyfriend says to him it won't happen. The boys mother walked out on them. Is there any material I can read about divorced men. I have a book How to marry a divorce man but it doesn't really help. It talks about both people being divorce. I don't have children I am single. Anything you suggest to read?
I can't suggest a book, but you could go to www.amazon.com and search for books on divorce. I'd also suggest that the 16 yr old boy is smart enough to know his father is dating you.
-- from George
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