Was it so bad?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
I have a confession to make. Since I am not religious I was hoping you might be able to listen to me. Last night my girlfriend of 3 years and i spent the night in my room hanging out watching tv/movies having a great time. Then some things happened. We started fooling around (oral) but there was no intercourse. Anyway she gets tired of fooling around when its her turn to perform on me. I have not had oral sex or any contact down there in about 6months. So after all the teasing I was just left frustrated, like I have been for so long. Anyway here comes the bad part, it makes me sick just typing it in. I started to feel her (down there) while she was sleeping. For about 5minutes I did this and then got up to put on my clothes and use the bathroom really quick. When I came back she was putting on her clothes and acting distant. I knew she must have been awake during some of that time. I took her home and she wouldn't admit to me what was wrong, but I knew. She said she would call me, but didnt, so i did and no answer. She text messaged me this morning asking why I'd called her last night and I said because I never heard from you. She said "I KNOW." Anyway she hints something is wrong and I was to ashamed to admit it at the time. I sent her 6text messages in full, explaining my remorse and my anger at myself for betraying her trust and acting out of character. She says she doesn't know what to say that she doesn't want to talk to me for a few days. I know what I did was disgusting and wrong and It hurt her. But Do you have any advice as to what I can do at this point to regain some of that trust? or how I should go about living with myself after such an incident?
Maybe I'm old fashioned, but I don't think you did anything wrong. But the important thing is that she (and you) think you did. I think this is a minor transgression and after some more apologizing she should forgive you.
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com