Jealous ov er threesome idea
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I am coming up on four years in my relationship with my boyfriend, this the longest most serious relationship I have ever been in. Recently my boyfriend expressed his interest in threesomes, as well as introducing porn into the relationship. At first I was open minded to the idea. I wasnt ready for the feelings though. It seems like he has to brings it up every time in bed to get him aroused. I already told him I wasnt comfortable with actually going through with inviting another woman into the bedroom. He persisted, and even asked me if I would ask some of my friends. I couldnt take it anymore, I told him I absolutly couldnt let it happen. The jealous feelings hurt too much. I feel like it's my fault for allowing him to think that he had a chance at it. He said he would never bring it up ever again. But now all I think about is that he wants it, and he thinks about other girls when were together. I feel powerless, I hate it. But I love him, what do I do?
You are only imagining that he is thinking of other women. But, it is probably true. Many, if not most, men fantasize during sex as a way of increasing arousal. Women do also. Try fantasizing yourself and see if it helps get rid of the jealous feelings. If that doesn't work, I would recommend see a sex therapist or general couselor.
-- from George
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