Boyfriend needs to make more of an effort
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I have never done this before, by "doing this" I mean asking for advice from a complete stranger, but I am now at the point where I can not handle it anymore. I 18 yrs. old, and though I am young, you would be surprised how much pain I have caused and suffered from in these past years, all dealing with guys problems. I do admit I do not like to be alone, and for this reason I always have a boyfriend. I am not the dating type and I don't care to be, I have been in many long relationships, but this past one has a greater affect then many, and we have only been together a month. I know this may sound immature but for some reason I can not help feeling terribly upset. The guy I am dating does not have the greatest past but I saw so much more in him, and I gave him the chance, many say people can not change, but I don't believe that. The relationship moved really fast, he already told me he loved me. I do love him, but he does not treat me the greatest. I always feel as though he is lying and cheating, but I can not tell if he is or if I feel that way from my past mistakes, so I continue to give him the benefit of the doubt. He swears that he loves me, but I feel like he is lying, I don't want to lose him but I want him to put forth more of an effort. I have no idea what to do or if this letter even makes since, if you can please help me, I dont know how long it will last.
Unless you have some evidence, you are right to give him the benefit of the doubt. He says he loves you so trust him. Don't mess up a good thing based on needless worrying. You could talk this subject over with him so you can get some positive feedback. It's the holidays, so enjoy them with him.
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com