She still talks to her old boyfriend
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I am a 23 year old male, I met this girl a few months ago. When I met her I wasnt looking for any type of relationship and neither was she. Well we started talking anyways and things started to progress. During the first month that we were talking I only got to see her 3 times and for a total of like 8 hours. It kind of bothered my because I like to spend time with people that I am with. Well when I brought it up to her she explained what had happened in her last relationship. Her ex BF never elt her do anything he accused her of cheating all the time. And he even went as far as running over her foot with his car. Well she just got back to work after the foot healed about a month ago. She has a claim against her ex bf insurance company, per a lawyer. She says that she can not file a restraining order or press charges against him cause the claim will be denied. Well he still calls her. She answers his phone calls while I am sitting with her right there. And this bothers me. I told her it bothered me and she said that she would rather talk to him on the phone that have him show up at her house. I can understand that too. Wht I dont understand is that when he calls it seems that she still cares. He said he had something to tell her and when he played the oh nevermind game I will tell you later she was like begging him to tell her like saying no please tell me. And it didnt sound right. So me trying to be understanding I said I know you still have feelings for him and that lead to a fight and she said you know what maybe I do have feelings for him and maybe I dont want to be with you and that just crushed me. She was so sorry though so I forgot about it. Lately I have been having this feeling like I know she will not cheat on me and she has no intention of leaving me but I still get certain feelings when certain situations arise. What do I do?
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