Moving away for six months
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
I've been with my guy for two years and five months. I'm going away for six months, which was the impetus for this break-up.
The Beginning--He moved to my city form the city we had met and become friends and sometimes lovers. I moved here, but we were not at all an official item. Six months later we began a on and off long-distance relationship. He moved here a year later.
The Relationship-- The constants in our relationship has been our love for one another and the fact that our career lives were always in a state of change.
Everything from his moving here and being un-employed to his two promotions after he got his job to his place of employment promising to close. In my job, I was depressed and had physical ailments that would sometimes effect our intimacy to my taking a medical leave. Obviously these changed are difficult for one person to deal with on her own, but we've been very strong throughout all of these--But I'm sure you can see the stress that these situations can cause in a relationship.
The Break Up--We broke up four days ago and I leave to go on the road for six months. His job will be done in April or sooner. He says that this is a time of transitions and seems to want to experience this big city.
I know that I have spent way too much time with him, in the past. Even though we are "moving on," as he puts it, he says that I am still his "best friend and that he will always love me."
Because we've probably spent too much time together and have never had sex (because I am a 31 year old vergin and am waiting for marriage) there are obvious intimacy issues. I do everything BUT have sex, but that gets very trying on both of us.
I'm wondering what I can do over these next few months to become more desirable as a lover than a friend. Because I know how much he loved me before. We've spent time together every day since we've not been together (by both's suggestion) and he tells me that he will always love me.
It is possible for me to come back once every couple of weeks if needed.
Please help me before I lose him completely.
It would help if you could come back once every couple of weeks. Sounds like his break up idea is really more theoretical than real since you see each other every day. Don't give up hope on this. You sound like a good pair. For increasing your desirability see our tips at: http://www.romanceclass.com/miscr/LoveCat/8723
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