Tactical love problem
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Hey this is kind of a long story but I need help with it
ok so I go to this military college and in it you are not allowed to date people who are in your same unit. Anyway there is this guy in my unit I met this year and he is awesome. At first we used to talk like all the time about everything and I mean everything I told him things i can't even tell my best friend and things I admit to him I nevr really was able to admit to myself he helped me to open up. Well one weekend we stayed up really alte in his room because he couldn't sleep and wanted someone to talk to and we talked about dating and etc. He has a thing for girls of different races (He's white) and I am black so I sorta knew he was attracted to me but I felt wierd because I was starting to like him. Well, he tried to rub my shoulders and he did it wrong so I said let's switch and he sat at hsi desk and i rubbed his shoulders then he tried to feel me up, I got scared so I backed off then we sat an listend to some country musi he's a country boy and talked about our families then i made fun of him for trying to touch me then i made fun of him for thinking he was sexy and he got mad so i gave him a hug and he tried to kiss me i backed off and we held hands for a while we looked into eachothers eyes and started breathing really heavy then he leaned in and kissed my cheek i said I would slap him if he ever did that again, but then he started kissing my neck then my belly i backed off cuz I was scared and i kinda started to cry he asked what/'s wrong I said I didn't want to change units and he said its ok we'll stop come here give me a hug so i gave him a hug and he held me and said its ok we're friends right? but then i felt him holding me in a more "loving way" and i held him back but then i said i couldn't take it so i went back to my room the next day we had unit pictures and he wouldn't look me in the eye so afterwards I went to his room and asked him what he thought about last night he said we should forget it ever happened because we're in the same unit i said ok then I locked the door went over to himstood over him and kissed him we made out for like 5 mins and then i backed off and he said so you just threw that out the window! and I was in a daze so i walked out. We tried to go back to being friends afterwards but its not like before where i could tell him anything, because I realized I love him I want to marry him spend my life with him and now 2 months later he came back from thanksgiveing with a girlfriend and I don't know what to say or do to get him to be my friend again and eventually leave her for me. I know he still wants me because I see him stare at me sometimes whenhe thinks I don't know it. What should I do?
Well one thing he could do is to change units if he comes back to you. Right now, you need to be his friend again and hope the old magic returns. It probably will.
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com