Set your primary goal
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
Hi. Things haven't been working out so easily between my kind of b/f or ex. we communicate on the internet cause thats how i met him. See, i was going out with this guy and we both love each other, and told me how he will always love me and all these personal stuff that were the sweetest thing anyone had ever told me. But then a bad thing happend when we were going out, when we were talking on the phone, he told 2 of his other friends that he was on the phone with that we weren't going out. That really upsetted me,but he said he was really sorry and kept on apologizing and admitted he made a mistake and i gave him another chance. Then he did it again, and i thought the best idea was to break up with him so i did. Then i couldn't stand not being with him because i loved him so much. So i told him and asked him out again, but he didn't give me a typical 'yes' or 'no' answer. I told him that i have a lot of feelings for someone, and he said if it were him he would go out with me. but then he was talking to my friend and she asked him if he liked me and he said not really and that we weren't going out. he didn't know that i was on the phone listening and i was shocked. so the next day, my friend and him and i were on the phone and she does me a favor by asking him if he loved me and he didn't say anything and kept hesitating. before that,he was listening to music and said that he hated all these songs that this artist did except for the one that used to be our song. and then says my name and theres a big silence. before i even showed him a lot of how much i care about him by remembering his birthday and thinking about him a lot and supporting him when he told me his father left his mom. he knows that. but he only tells me that he loves me a lot and he wants to be with me and y he likes me, the only girl thats perfect for him only on the computer. But im really confused..i mean does he love me? i can't take it being without him and its really hard already cause its long distance and everything. he's apart of my heart and life that will never go away. i dream about him, write his name over and over on a piece of paper in class in school. he also tells me he does the same thing and all this other stuff. im so obssessed and i can't live without him, and its really scary. im so sorry for making this long, but i couldn't find any way to shorten it. If you can give me any advice, it will be very well appreciated. thank you so much..
Sorry you are in this situation.
You are going to figure this one out for yourself. All I see is a lot of confusion and misunderstanding. Find out what your primary goal is and work toward it. Communication is the key. That means direct talking and not listening on the phone while others talk.
-- from George
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